Recently read a quote which made me grimace. My response could be connected with the recent Netflix drama my husband and I have been watching about the life of King Henry VIII. Here is the quote;
“I have begun to believe that I have intellectually and emotionally outgrown my husband. However, I’m not really sure what this means or what I should do. Maybe this feeling is normal and I should ignore it and continue my present relationship. This seems to be the safest route. Maybe I should seek a lover while continuing with my husband. Then again, maybe I should start anew and hope for a beautiful ending with or without a better mate”
If you study nature you can see many species mate for life; swans, ospreys, doves, bald eagles, gibbons, angel fish, wolves, even termites! Then of course I think of the female spider eating her mate after conjugation; the black widow. See female spiders don’t always recognize their own species and all spiders are cannibalistic, so the smaller male spider, is at a great disadvantage.
Males engage in a lengthy and subtle courtship ritual that lulls the female into the right mood. Every move the male makes has to be just right or it’s all over for him. Sometimes it’s all over for him no matter what he does. These would be the near-starving females that are more worried about food than reproduction. After mating, which may take some time, the female gradually returns to her normal state of mind – which includes eating anything smaller than her, including mates.
If the male is foolish enough to hang out in the web too long, it becomes lunch. Most males skip out immediately and look for another female (sound familiar?) Alas we are human, we have evolved, we have a soul, yes, we have a conscious! Which brings me back to thoughts of King Henry and his sixteenth century choices and the quote above. Heck we all face turmoil, hopefully experienced the rush of passion and know love. We all have appreciated beauty in nature and recognize this in each other . . . . so why the turmoil?
Because deep down we have needs, wants and an agenda. Thoughts rush back to the drama; The Tudors. King Henry wanted a male offspring, a son, one who would reflect his glory and in his heart. he believed Anne would be the vessel. So powerfully attracted, would this man so in love ever think that after a few years his feelings for Anne would grow from love to hate? Probably – not. And certainly every woman or man married today, knowing it would end in divorce, would they really choose to marry? !
Yes, maybe turmoil can be expressed as a WAVE! Feelings rolling over the top of an ocean, or through the air which caress your face, or the electromagnetic type, so amazingly charged and combustion happens, allowing one to bend reality.
So why do we doubt a love we once had? Or maybe it’s as simple as learning to ride the waves of change. Waves are natural, waves come and go and definitely are relentless this is a fact, however the truth remains, we evolve, and what we fear will come to pass.
“Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship” Buddha
Conquering your own demons of self doubt you will indeed walk on the water’s for a portal of understanding will open, the covenant of love between you and our Creator will flow. You realize you do not walk alone and in the stillness you may even hear~
“Darling I love you just as you are”
Yup turmoil is the same today as it was in King Henry’s day, so was the music, the lawyers, the politics, the mistresses, the clothes were different, technology wasn’t present yet, however, as passion consumes guess what, we all end up nakedly exposed.